Gṛhastha — the householder stage
गृहस्थ
Also written: grihastha · householder stage · family life hinduism · atithi devo bhava
The householder generates everything the other three stages consume — food, wealth, children, continuity, and the rites for the dead. The tradition is unambiguous: this is the stage that carries the rest.
Its duties
| Duty | Content |
|---|---|
| Marriage and family | The vivāha saṃskāra; raising children; discharging the debt to the ancestors |
| Livelihood | Earning by means consistent with dharma; supporting dependants; giving a share away |
| The five daily yajñas | To the ṛṣis, the devas, the ancestors, human beings and all creatures |
| Atithi — the guest | The uninvited guest is fed before the household eats. 'Let the guest be as a god to you' |
| Dāna | Giving as an obligation, in proportion to means, to those who cannot reciprocate |
| Care of the elderly and the ill | The parents who raised one, and whoever else has no other support |
Two mistakes the stage guards against
- Treating the householder's life as spiritually second-rate. The tradition's most respected figures — Janaka, Vasiṣṭha, the ṛṣis with families — were householders.
- Treating it as permanent. The stage has an end, and the vānaprastha transition exists because the greatest danger of a successful householder's life is refusing to hand it over.
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